I’ve not been posting very much lately, but after reading this post, you’ll understand why.
For the past couple of weeks, I’ve had to get used to the idea that I’m going to be…a grandmother next July. Given that I wasn’t expecting to be a grandmother for a while, the news came as a shock. A new baby in our family is certainly a life-changing event! I won’t pretend it’s an ideal situation, but it’s also not the end of the world. Although my daughter is still in high school, I sincerely believe that she has the strength to get through this and continue with her education because she has a strong support network rallying around her. She comes from a family of strong women who always made it their business to get things done for themselves and their families.
Part of my self-care means learning how to stay calm in a less-than-ideal situation such as this one. Getting hysterical is of no help to anyone and I knew that I had to deal with the news very calmly. I recognize that it took a lot of courage for my daughter to tell me and I commended her for it. This is not to say that I condone what she did or that I’m high-fiving her for giving me a grandchild while she’s still in high school, but there’s no changing what has happened. I explained to her that we have a choice when it comes to how we view our situation and I choose to see it in a positive way. How can a baby not be a blessing? We have been through far worse than this and we will get through this together.
The last couple of weeks have not been easy, but we’re now moving forward and embracing our life-changing situation. We’re eternally grateful for all the support we’ve gotten from everyone. My daughter and I are now working on a joint blog project, in which we are chronicling the next 7 months, from both very different perspectives. We believe we can help others in many aspects by sharing our experiences and information about the resources that are helping us. We’re not glamorizing this in any way; our blogs will contain the “realness” of our situation and not some polite, over-thought posts designed to sugar-coat the truth. If you’re interested in reading either ~ or both ~ blogs, you can visit my daughter’s blog, Confused Teenage Mum and mine is called Gran Musings. If you know anyone who might enjoy and/or benefit from reading our blogs, please feel free to pass them our links. We would love to hear other stories from those who have found themselves in similar situations.
My daughter’s first prenatal appointment was this past Wednesday, during which she had an ultrasound. When we saw the image on the screen, we were both in tears. When I showed the picture one of my best friends, she said, “Look at the little bean!” And from there, “GrandBean” became the word of the day. Now everyone calls it my grandbean.
Although this isn’t a typical “Feel-Good Friday” post, all about self-care or me-time, I couldn’t resist sharing the news about my precious little grandbean. I’m definitely in a much calmer place than I was a couple of weeks ago when I first heard the news. Here begins a new chapter in our lives, filled with challenges as well as joy. All my grandparent-friends boast about how wonderful it is to be a grandparent and tell me how much I’m going to love being in “the club”. Every time I look at the little bean’s ultrasound, I smile; if that isn’t a “Feel-Good Friday” moment, I don’t know what is. ❤
Happy Feel-Good Friday!